For high anxiety
Wevana Tappers
my number oneThese handheld rechargeable tappers buzz alternately left and right, mimicking the bilateral stimulation used in EMDR therapy, and they are my number one tool for clients who arrive in high anxiety and need to come back to earth fast. My link applies code ANGELA for 10% off your order.
Shop the tappers →Calming nervous-system
Hands-free, EMDR-style
B-Pulse Bilateral Tappers
Small vibration units that strap to your wrists and buzz left to right, hands-free, so you get the same nervous system calming effect as EMDR-style bilateral stimulation whether you are sitting at your desk, lying down, or anywhere in between.
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Fast, drug-free calm
HOOLEST VeRelief Prime
A pocket-sized device you hold against the side of your neck for a few minutes to gently stimulate the vagus nerve, one of the fastest drug-free ways I know to interrupt a stress response and bring your system back to calm.
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For a racing mind
Vagus Nerve Reset Deck
Seventy-five cards, each with a quick, doable exercise to move your nervous system out of fight-or-flight, genuinely useful when anxiety is high and your mind is too scattered to remember what to try.
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For overwhelm
Tortilla Blanket, my “Trauma Taco”
A round, tortilla-print weighted blanket I lovingly call the Trauma Taco. The gentle, even weight settles an overwhelmed nervous system, and honestly it is my coziest recommendation on this entire list.
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For restless nights
Weighted Blanket
A weighted blanket whose steady, even weight gives your nervous system something concrete to register, making it easier to calm down, breathe, or fall asleep when everything feels like too much.
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For comfort
Cozy Blanket
Sometimes the most therapeutic thing is simple warmth and comfort. This blanket is exactly that, for the moments you just need something cozy and good close by.
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For feeling untethered
Grounding Mat
You stand or sit on this mat barefoot and the steady physical contact gives your nervous system a clear, real point to anchor to, which helps with the floaty, disconnected feeling that anxiety and grief often bring.
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For grounding
Neuro Ball
A textured roller you run under your feet or through your hands, the strong, deliberate sensation gives your nervous system something immediate and grounding to focus on when your thoughts are spinning.
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For a deep breath
Deep Breath Balm
A minty herbal balm you swipe under your nose, the clearing scent instinctively draws you into a slower, fuller breath and gently pulls your attention back into the present moment.
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For restless energy
Stress Relief Balls
Simple, satisfying squeeze balls that give anxious or restless energy a place to go, and bring your awareness back into your hands and out of your head.
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For a panic spiral
Sour Patch Kids
One of my favorite low-tech grounding tricks: the sharp, sour taste interrupts a spiral immediately and snaps your attention straight back to the present. Easy to tuck into any bag.
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For focus
ONO Roller
A beautifully made stainless steel fidget you roll between your fingers. Quiet, pocket-sized, and genuinely satisfying, it gives restless hands something to do so the rest of you can settle.
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Silent fidget
Pushpeel Sensory Board
A silent silicone board you push and peel with your fingers, mess-free and deeply satisfying, great for restlessness and focus, and popular with both kids and adults.
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