Chosen by Angela SchellenbergLicensed trauma therapist

Books about losing a sibling

Q: What is the best book to start with for losing a sibling?

Angela’s first pick on this shelf is Surviving the Death of a Sibling by T.J. Wray. In her words: “The book most often recommended on adult sibling loss. Built from interviews with hundreds of bereaved siblings.”

Q: What other books does Angela recommend for losing a sibling?

Also on this shelf: The Empty Room by Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn. Each one has a short note above on who it helps.

Q: Is there a guided journal for losing a sibling?

Yes. Still Your Sister is Angela’s own guided journal for this loss ($14.99).

For the keeper of half your stories.

A grief that is often under-witnessed. These two books take it seriously.

2 books · each with Angela’s note on who it helps

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The 2 books

Surviving the Death of a Sibling T.J. Wray Angela saysThe book most often recommended on adult sibling loss. Built from interviews with hundreds of bereaved siblings. View on Amazon

The Empty Room Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn Angela saysOn growing up alongside a sibling's illness and death. Names the grief that does not end when you reach adulthood. View on Amazon

Angela’s journal for this lossStill Your SisterA sibling loss grief journal.$14.99See the journal →

Common questions

What is the best book to start with for losing a sibling?

Angela’s first pick on this shelf is Surviving the Death of a Sibling by T.J. Wray. In her words: “The book most often recommended on adult sibling loss. Built from interviews with hundreds of bereaved siblings.”

What other books does Angela recommend for losing a sibling?

Also on this shelf: The Empty Room by Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn. Each one has a short note above on who it helps.

Is there a guided journal for losing a sibling?

Yes. Still Your Sister is Angela’s own guided journal for this loss ($14.99).

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